Take the Lead.
I smiled to see four of our grandchildren linked together. Age four to fourteen, they made a few trips around the backyard –a big brother and good-natured cousins, led by the four year old.
Seek out friends and family members you trust and enjoy. The best support system is built of listeners and encouragers who allow you to be yourself.
Spend time with those who will laugh with you or quietly stand by when you are feeling down.
If you have special family members who help you feel safe and at ease, seek them out.
Keep in touch with church or social club members who understand that you may experience limitations. If you must limit your activities, go to the ones where you have the closest connections.
You may not be able to bowl, but you might enjoy watching your team’s efforts. You may not be able to golf, but you might enjoy a visit to the clubhouse. Enjoy everything you can.
A faith-based cancer support group of two, three, or twenty can be of great benefit to you and others in attendance.
Some people may hesitate to visit, not knowing when or if you are in the frame of mind, or physically able to receive them. If you want to see them and are up for it, invite them.
If at some point you need to say it is not a good time, most will understand. Ask them to please keep in touch. Then on a better day, give them a call to let them know you would enjoy a visit. It will put them at ease, and you will feel better as well.
Remember those who care for you need you in their life as well. Your cancer experience touches everyone around you.
It is okay to reach out.
It is okay to receive.
It is okay to give back.
Just like a four year old, it’s easy to feel small and insignificant. It is important not to withdraw, and sometimes take the lead so your loved ones can know where you are going.
It will help them and you.